Fritinancy

April linkfest

This month I’ve been reading Stiffed: The Roots of Modern Male Rage, by Susan Faludi. Actually, I’ve been re-reading it; the book was originally published in 1999 with the subtitle The Betrayal of the American Man and was reissued in 2019 with a new author’s foreword that adds a Trump-era, #MeToo perspective. Faludi is a superb researcher, interviewer, and writer (and believe me, that’s a tough trifecta), and Stiffed—what a perfect title—holds up shockingly well. Faludi’s mid-1990s reporting took her to Vietnam veterans, diehard Cleveland Browns fans, an Alternatives to Violence group, laid-off defense workers, and meetings of Promise Keepers, a Christian men’s association. She investigates the post-World War II redefinition of masculinity as “something to drape over the body, not draw from inner resources” and to be “displayed, not demonstrated.” I couldn’t help reflecting on Stiffed when I read a recent New York Times roundtable discussion with eight men who described themselves as politically conservative and who repeatedly expressed a wistful longing for days gone by—the same days, some 25 years ago, that Faludi wrote about: a time of layoffs and gang violence and painful domestic rifts. Moral: Beware the nostalgia trap and the Golden Age fallacy; there never were any good old days, except for the ones that seemed good because you were a little kid and didn’t know any better. (You may also be interested in the letters to the editor about that roundtable discussion. I’ve unlocked both links so that nonsubscribers can access them.)

 

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Why A-list names often aren’t A+ clients. (Nora Trice for A Hundred Monkeys)

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February linkfest

After 22,000 submissions and 60,000 votes, the Minnesota Department of Transportation announced new names for six additional snowplows, including The Big Leplowski and Betty Whiteout. (Hat tip: Lynne Murphy)

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Some commentary on “Commanders,” the recently announced name of the Washington Football Team:

• “While it’s not surprising that a team in the NFL, a league that festoons itself in camouflage every November for its ‘Salute to Service’ campaign, would adopt a military-theme name, most of the American public likely identifies more with the boots on the ground than the brass giving them their marching orders.”  (James I. Bowie for Fast Company)
• “Fans will surely get used to Coms, but for most folks now that word solely means ‘communications’ (comms is commonly used in that way, particularly in the military).” (Catchword blog)

I wrote about the controversy over the team’s original name back in 2014.

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You’re already playing Wordle, right? How about Globle and Worldle, the geography guessing games? Or the Broadway word game created by Broadway World?

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The ten worst company-naming mistakes, from “imitating successful brands and following trends” to “focusing on the specifics of today rather than on your core purpose.” (Catchword blog)

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I was once a typesetter, and I still maintain an interest in typefaces, but I’d never heard of a typeface called Jim Crow. Sarah K. Kramer writes about its history and how it came to be renamed Ruby, in honor of school-desegregation pioneer Ruby Bridges. (Believer Magazine)

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“The Unsuccessful Self-Treatment of Writer’s Block:”: a paper published by the Journal of Applied Behavioral Analysis in 1974. (Kottke)

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“The Biden team — and the Democratic Party — could learn a lot from what Mr. Obama and Mr. Trump accomplished with their embrace of strong branding. Plainly put, it’s time for the White House to wake up. Or we are screwed.” (Julio Vincent Gambuto for Medium)

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“People sometimes poke fun at me for my unhealthy obsession with naming things: workism, hygiene theater, everything shortage. Naming things is a gimmick, and I am not strictly pro-gimmick. But I am an extreme partisan for memorable writing. I want people to read my words, and recall them, and use them, and talk about them.”: Derek Thompson’s tips for nonfiction writers. (I wrote about workism in 2019.)

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The 57 in the Heinz’s  “57 Varieties” slogan is a completely madeupical number, but it’s been a great brand-booster for more than a century. (CNN Business, via Michael F.)

A 1902 Heinz advertisement that lists far fewer than 57 varieites.

 

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Nothing to do with names or brands, but I know I’m not the only one who was strongly affected by Jennifer Senior’s story for The Atlantic about friendship. A short excerpt:

You lose friends to marriage, to parenthood, to politics—even when you share the same politics. (Political obsessions are a big, underdiscussed friendship-ender in my view, and they seem to only deepen with age.) You lose friends to success, to failure, to flukish strokes of good or ill luck. (Envy, dear God—it’s the mother of all unspeakables in a friendship, the lulu of all shames.) These life changes and upheavals don’t just consume your friends’ time and attention. They often reveal unseemly characterological truths about the people you love most, behaviors and traits you previously hadn’t imagined possible.

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Rebranding for the 13th century: Designer Ilya Stallone imagines how famous logos would have looked in the Middle Ages.  (UX Design)

Via Ilya Stallone

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How to say “mansplain” in languages other than English? Read the whole thread!

 

poll time!

which language has the best version of the verb that means: “(of a man) explain (something) to someone, typically a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending/patronising”?

(and please do reply with other variants—these are just the four I’m familiar with)

— Dan Hicks (@profdanhicks) February 7, 2022

March linkfest

This month’s book recommendation is I Like to Watch (2019), by the Pulitzer Prize–winning television critic Emily Nussbaum. The book collects a decade’s worth of Nussbaum’s reviews and essays for the New Yorker and other publications, including one written especially for the book. Nussbaum is such a good writer that she made me care about shows that hadn’t appealed to me (I’ve watched exactly one episode each, for example, of “The Sopranos,” “Buffy the Vampire Slayer,” and “Lost”). And she made me care even more deeply about subjects I was already drawn to, like the complicated career of Joan Rivers and the way the 2016 presidential election made “jokes” unfunny. (You can read the jokes essay—one of the best pieces of writing to come out of that twisted season—here.)

 

Ro, Ro, Ro

Ads for erectile-dysfunction drugs are so ubiquitous on cable-news channels that I rarely give them more than a glance. But a few months ago I saw an ad for an ED service whose name caught my attention: Roman. Nice, I thought: A classical allusion with man embedded in the name.

I no longer remember exactly which ad I saw, but this long-form spot should give you the idea of Roman’s cocky positioning. Yes, I said cocky.

 

I was interested enough to do some research. And then I was even more interested.

Word of the week: Spanandry

I had not expected to be sent to the dictionary by “Schitt’s Creek,” the Canadian comedy series starring Eugene Levy and Catherine O’Hara as temporarily embarrassed multimillionaires Johnny and Moira Rose, who’ve been divested of all their assets except their fabulous wardrobes, their helpless adult children, and the town of the title, which Johnny had long ago bought—yes, the whole town—as a joke gift for his son. But the show, which originated on CBC, is full of surprises. (You can catch the first four seasons on Netflix; the fifth is currently airing on the Pop network.) It’s “a comedy sleeper hit” (Rolling Stone), “Canada’s kindest and wiggiest sitcom” (Vulture), and “so much more than its title” (Vox).

What's your daddy?

Polldaddy is dead; long live Crowdsignal, its successor in the platform-agnostic poll- and survey-creation business. The service, which is owned by Wordpress, was silent on the reason for the recent name change, leaving us to wonder: Was daddy too patriarchal? Was the name likely to be confused with the unrelated GoDaddy*, the internet-domain registrar?

As long as we’re asking questions, what accounts for the plethora of DADDY brand names? There are 757 DADDY registrations in the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office database, from FROG DADDY (“men’s and women’s wearing apparel”) and CAT DADDY (“beds for household pets”) to THE SOUP DADDY (“soups, stews”), THE CANDLE DADDY (“candles”), TACO DADDY (“catering”), UNDERWEAR DADDY (“socks”), CHOCOLATE DADDY (“sunglasses”), WOLF DADDY (“reality-based television program”), and ICE DADDY (“electric air deodorizers for refrigerators”). Nearly a third of the registrations have been filed in the last two years. What accounts for the trend?

Word of the week: Soy boy

Settle in with a nice tofu sandwich and some edamame as I tell you about soy boy and how it became the insult of choice among alt-right troglodytes – the sort of chuckleheads who call Trump “god emperor.” 

 

Via Reddit/The_Donald. Note pussy hat.

Word of the week: Reckoning

All this autumn, the stories have been tumbling out: about sexual harassment, sexual “misconduct” and, in some cases, actual rape, perpetrated by men in positions of power. Men in Hollywood (Harvey Weinstein, Louis C.K., Kevin Spacey), men in the media (Mark Halperin, Leon Wieseltier, Michael Oreskes), men in tech (Uber, SoFi, Tesla), men in politics (Roy Moore, Donald Trump). The stories have been told by famous women, by almost-famous women, and by non-famous women who took to Facebook and Twitter, sometimes revealing no more than the #MeToo hashtag.

There has been shock, anger, and even backlash. Overwhelmingly, though, there has been a demand for reckoning.

 

Kingdoms of Amalur: Reckoning, a role-playing video game released in 2012.

Word of the Week: Dad Bod

Dad Bod: “A nice balance between a beer gut and working out.” – Clemson University sophomore Mackenzie Pearson, who popularized the term by writing about it in The Odyssey Online, a publication that serves college communities around the United States. Also spelled dadbod.

From Pearson’s essay, published March 31, 2015:

The dad bod is a new trend and fraternity boys everywhere seem to be rejoicing. Turns out skipping the gym for a few brews last Thursday after class turned out to be in their favor. While we all love a sculpted guy, there is just something about the dad bod that makes boys seem more human, natural, and attractive.

(Yep, I noticed “turns out/turned out.” The Odyssey Online does not appear to be edited, or proofread; “Berkeley” is misspelled on the About page.)

Word of the Week: Manosphere

Manosphere: A loose network of blogs, forums and online communities on the English-speaking web that are devoted to men’s interests, often in opposition to feminism.

Although there were earlier men’s-interests blogs, Know Your Meme tracks the earliest usage of “manosphere” to the November 1, 2009, debut of The Manosphere. That blog fizzled out a month and a half later, but other sites picked up the mantle, including Viva La [sic] Manosphere and Manosphere.com, “the first 24/7 manosphere blog wire.” Manosphere has compiled a list of more than 100 manosphere blogs. 

 

Uptick in manosphere usage. Source: Google Trends.

 

The manosphere has its attendant jargon: there are men’s rights activists (MRA), pick-up artists (PUA), and Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW, a male-separatist movement). The Red Pill (TRP, a reference to the 1999 movie The Matrix, in which the protagonist swallows a red pill to enter the real world) is often invoked, as are “alpha” and “beta” males (but not omega males).

In a 2013 e-book, The Manosphere: How the Red Pill, Game, and the Internet Are Revalorizing Masculinity for the 21st Century, Ian Ironwood, author of The Red Pill Room blog, makes his case in plain language:

The Manosphere is an angry place. Feminists love to talk dismissively about the anger there, as if male anger invalidates any reasonable point behind the anger. But that anger is understandable by any objective measure. That’s because our culture has treated men, as a class, very poorly while asking so much for them. …

For the last 40 years, men have been trying to adapt to the chaotic result of the Sexual Revolution and the dictates of feminism, and at long last they’re getting fed up.

(Emphasis sic.) 

In late June a Washington Post reporter, Monica Hesse, attended the first International Conference on Men’s Issues in St. Clair Shores, Michigan where, she writes, about 200 attendees—“mostly white, college-through-retirement-age”—found confirmation for their belief that “the world had become a hostile and dangerous place for males”: 

This conference, billed as the first of its kind, was sponsored by A Voice for Men, an online publication for the men’s rights movement and one of the more prominent outlets in the “manosphere.” Originally, it was to take place at a Doubletree in Detroit, a city picked because it was an “iconic testament to masculinity,” according to promotional materials. But then something happened to the original plans. A Voice for Men said the hotel was issued death threats by feminists for agreeing to hold the conference; the hotel never confirmed or denied these reports. The conference was moved from the Doubletree to the suburban VFW, a yellowish linoleum room that organizers argued was even more appropriate and more masculine of a location.

Manospheric issues aren’t confined to North America. Writing recently in The Guardian (UK) about “The Everyday Fear of Violence Every Woman Has to Cope With,” Eva Wiseman noted the connection—if only rhetorical—between men’s rights activists and the misogynist “manifesto” of 22-year-old Elliot Rodger, who massacred six people near Santa Barbara, California:

Advocates of the men’s rights movement are united by their belief that feminism is the enemy. It’s made up of a mix of men – pick-up artists, male victims of abuse, father's rights proponents – who come together online. One of the most successful communities in the “manosphere” is Reddit's Red Pill. It has almost 53,000 subscribers who believe that women are designed solely for sex and sandwich-making. (I’m paraphrasing, but barely – one email I got this week suggested that “the women’s movement is breaking the circle of life, and our humanity”).

Although the online manosphere is often characterized by vitriolic anti-woman language, the Post’s Monica Hesse saw something else when she attended the ICMI conference: “an island of misfit boys and damaged men, who claimed to have believed in the system until it failed them.”