Interesting podcast (with transcript) at Grammar Girl about the "generic" (aka epicene or gender-neutral) pronoun: "they" with a singular antecedent. Grammar Girl is as perplexed as everyone else, but makes the very reasonable suggestion to simply rewrite the problematic phrase. Casting it in the plural usually works: Instead of "When a student succeeds, [he] [she] [he or she] should thank [his] [her] [his or her] teacher," you can write "When students succeed, they should thank their teacher" (or perhaps "teachers").
I've written about this problem myself and continue to find interesting articles about it. My gripe with singular "they" is that I see and hear it used all too frequently to refer back to a gender-specific subject, e.g.: "If a boy breaks the rule, should they be punished?" This is just plain sloppy, and evidence of an inability to think from one end of a sentence to another.
You've put your finger on it: laziness is the root of the problem. In speech, we often paint ourselves into pronoun corners, but in writing, it is ALWAYS possible to re-write the sentence, and seldom difficult. Take the logline for Mel Gibson's movie: "No one can outrun their destiny." What's wrong with "No one can outrun destiny"? -M.
Posted by: Myles | December 15, 2006 at 01:33 PM
I don't see why it's sloppy. It's certainly not acceptable or grammatical to everyone, but it makes sense as an extension of "they" from a common-gender, common-number pronoun to a pronoun that can refer to a specific gender. Language Log has some examples
http://itre.cis.upenn.edu/~myl/languagelog/archives/004443.html
Posted by: John | May 29, 2007 at 10:12 AM